Have you heard the saying, “Talking to yourself is OK as long as you don’t expect a response”? Most of us do it, and I believe that self-talk is particularly prevalent among caregivers.
I am an audible self-talker, whispering declarations and questions to no one in particular. And I'll admit that I sometimes answer myself. Maybe you are also an audible processor, which is a sanitized way of saying you talk to yourself. As long as you’re telling yourself the right things, then that’s OK.
defines self-talk as “an inner voice that provides a running monologue throughout the day and even into the night.”
Everyone has an inner voice. Sometimes that voice is positive; at other times, not so much.
Overwhelmed by the duties involved in caring for an Alzheimer’s patient, caregivers can be very hard on themselves. Their inner monologue is continually chatting about one thing or another. The constancy of caregiving
lends itself to self-criticism. Ask yourself what positive thoughts have crossed your mind today, particularly as they relate to the great job
that you’re doing.
It's human nature
The chances are that your self-talk is more negative than positive. The brain processes the activities of the day, and our failings rise to the top, as the voice from within “combines conscious thoughts with unconscious beliefs and biases." Dealing with all of the challenges that come with Alzheimer’s disease
can exacerbate those beliefs and biases.
According to Psychology Today
, we a