Treading Dark Waters - a Column by Ray Burow

Like most people, caregivers look forward to celebrating the holidays with family and friends. Or do they? Christmas is a wonderful time of year, but it carries many expectations, with the greatest being to fulfill the holiday spirit. We want to have and share that warm, fuzzy feeling that accompanies…

Both of my parents, Ruth and Jim Page Sr., have passed from this life to the next. They were tremendous people who loved each other and their children profoundly. They had many gifts, separately and together. I’ve never met two people whose gifts, talents, and interests were so well matched.

Are you seeing a lot of pink lately? You probably have, since October is internationally recognized as Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Just as purple is associated with Alzheimer’s disease, pink denotes breast cancer awareness. Both men and women can develop these illnesses, though more women are…

If you’re diagnosed with dementia or its most common form, Alzheimer’s disease, please know that however you feel about it is how you feel about it. Your feelings are valid. Someone diagnosed with dementia commented on a recent column of mine, “We must avoid wallowing in self-pity…

Someone facing an Alzheimer’s diagnosis may experience a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and disbelief. It’s hard to tell which is more crippling: the diagnosis itself or the emotional toll it takes on the patient and their family. It can be easy to fall into self-pity. When…

Marriage is the union of two people who become one. Anyone who’s “jumped the broom,” however, can attest that marriage is also the union of two families. Parents transform into in-laws and embrace shared children. Sadly, in American culture, mothers-in-law receive a bad rap. They’re the unfair…

Years ago, before I had any understanding of Alzheimer’s disease, a friend told me that she and her family lied to her grandmother, who had the condition. We’ve long since lost touch, but if granted the opportunity, I would tell my friend, “I get it now.” My friend had…

We’re barely into the summer months, and temperatures across the United States are soaring. Heat is expected to intensify as we get deeper into the season, with U.S. temperatures surpassing those of 2023 by at least 2 degrees. Translation: It’s hot, it’s going to stay hot, and rising temperatures…

With its graduations and awards ceremonies, the end of the school year is a complicated season for sandwich generation caregivers, who must provide care for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or another life-altering condition while simultaneously raising their kids. These carers face an emotional battle because they’re constantly…

Today, I am cancer-free, but five years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent chemotherapy. Five years prior, my sister had been diagnosed with the same disease and received the same treatment. She is also cancer-free now, by the grace of God. This may seem odd,…